Need to Find a Good Man???

Let me just start by saying that I truly love my grandfather. He is the epitome of the perfect man. If we could clone men, he should be at the top of the list. And at the present, he is the main male role-model for my son.

Now he seems to have gotten it into his head that he won't be around forever, where he got this idea, I have no idea. I have informed him on numerous occasions that he is strictly forbidden from getting any older. I just can't figure out why he isn't listening to me...

So he has decided that I need to put myself out there more and find a father for my son...what? Are you joking? No, he really isn't. I need a strong man who can take care of me and be a good influence on my son.

Now, if I happen to meet a great guy who wants to step in and be that husband/father, great, I'm not against it. What I can't seem to figure out is the how part...

I'm a single mother, I work full time, and when I'm at home I'm either taking care of my son, cleaning the house, grocery shopping, trying to finish remodeling projects so I can put my itty-bitty little townhouse on the market so we can upgrade to a full size adult home...look at me, I'm growing up! Or...trying to write my book in between all of the above. So unless some amazing man literally throws himself across the hood of my car, I think I might miss him...not intentionally, mind you, but I have a pretty packed life right now. Dating hasn't hit my top 5 list of things I must be doing right now.

Oh, and there's the fact that I don't always play well with others. My home, my stuff, my space, my rules...and I like it that way, at least I do at the moment. I was married for 6 1/2, very painful years and hated it. Of course, if you had to rate where my ex husband would land on the cloning scale...let's just say that our species would become extinct. So that also has a lot to do with my attitude. I just haven't come across any men who I'd like to share my life with.

And then you have the whole online dating phenomena. So not for me (apologies to anyone who has used an online dating service and found mister or misses right), I just can't see myself paying a service with money I don't actually have in the hopes of finding a match that lasts. And I've heard all kinds of complaints that people never got a single match...nope, not my cup of tea.

So the question remains, how does one find a good man? I can't afford a sitter and I really am not into bar hoping or into singles activities even if I could pay for a sitter. I do believe in the law of attraction...so maybe if I just kick back and meditate on mister hotty and rich walking into my life and sweeping me off my feet (and my son) the path will open itself up to me...any thoughts?