Thursday, January 10, 2013

Finding love...moving on


 
Ok, so I fell in love. I eloped. My family is upset. I live in Arizona, my husband lives in Canada. So will I by the end of this year. It's somewhat difficult to accurately explain how I feel because I've never experienced this before. We met online, just "Hi, how are you?" It wasn't meant to turn into love, into marriage; at least not within a couple of months. But it did. The more we spoke the harder I fell. It feels right, natural, what I'm supposed to do. I'm not scared or worried about the future. I suppose I should be because we haven't known each other very long. It feels like we've known each other all of our lives. We just clicked; flowed into each other's lives so naturally. We have similar interests, similar hobbies; our views on life, marriage, kids, all of it, works. We've both come out of long term relationships and weren't looking for love. It just sort of found us. Maybe we loved each other in a past life, or lives. How else can I explain how natural and comfortable I am with him? There’s no modesty, no “best behavior” crap; just us, being together, loving each other. I start to text him, and he’s already typing me a message. We think of each other at the same time. I feel healthy with him near me. The pain is there, but it eases; begins to relax a little. Maybe it will finally begin to fade. He can touch me whereas anyone else would make me wince in pain. I didn’t marry him because I’m lonely. I was. I won’t deny that, but I could have found someone who lived in the same state if all I wanted was someone around. I didn’t marry him to get away from anything or anyone; I’m not trying to run away from this life. I want to take my life and evolve it into something more. I want more. I deserve more. And I found more, in Canada. He makes me feel like I’m the most precious woman on this earth. Beautiful, smart, sexy…the whole package, which I know I’m not, but when he’s around, I feel it. I don’t hide things from him that I normally would with other men. I built a wall around my heart after my divorce. No one would ever get that close to me again…ever. Men were good for sex, but that was about it; until I met my future husband. My wall didn’t just crumble, but came down in one mighty whoosh of hurricane strength destruction. Blocks and debris scattered from here to the other side of the world. There’s no chance of ever rebuilding that wall, and I don’t want to. Not with him. I get excited when he calls, I run for my phone when I hear a text come through. I desperately miss him now that he has returned to Canada. I have 3 weeks to wait until I can fly up to see him. He’s my best friend; I want to tell him everything about me, everything that happens to me, everything I’m thinking about. It doesn’t matter how dumb it may sound, I know he won’t make fun of me. I trust him with everything; I know he will never do anything to lose my trust, my respect, and my love. I feel complete with him in my life. I haven’t been happy where I’m at for a very long time, I can see happiness again with him; in his misty blue eyes, his warm smile; I can see it, lying there just waiting for me to reach out and take it. I’m tired of sticking around because I feel I need to for others. Now I’m doing this strictly for me. I may not have known him long, but I know him enough to know he is the one, this is right, and I’m going to do this. He is my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my soul mate, my love from lives past, the man who will be a father to my son, my life, my husband. I love him with all of my heart and soul, and I will do anything to keep this amazing man in my life. We have both agreed, our first relationships were simply the test run; now we're ready for the real thing.

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